5 Elements For Children’s Ministry: Heartfelt Relationships

5 Elements For Children’s Ministry: Heartfelt Relationships

5 Elements For Children?s Ministry: Heartfelt Relationships

In our?previous post, we defined Children’s Ministry?as?“partnering with parents to guide kids toward a HEART for God”. ?Parents are ultimately responsible, but as Children’s Ministry?leaders, our part includes 5 elements.

The first element is?Heartfelt Relationships?(the “H” in HEART).

Memorize this:?ministry always happens best in the context of ?relationships…period!

Program, curriculum, facilities, resources and many other things are?important…relationships are?essential?- it’s about people!

relationships-2-600x370As a leader, we have a responsibility to ensure that our ministry is characterized by?Heartfelt Relationships?in all directions – a 360? approach to relationships that might look something like the diagram to the right (with the assumption that all relationships are ultimately to point toward and deepen our relationship with God). ?If our ministry is characterized by these relationships, the foundation is laid for deep and meaningful impact in all directions.

So how do you do this? ?Here are a few pointers to get you started:

1. Realize it takes a commitment.

Building relationships is harder than building facilities, or great program, or just about anything else. ?It takes time, effort and vulnerability…and it starts with YOU, the leader.

2. Model the relationships you want.

It starts with you, the leader. ?Have you taken time to intentionally define the relationship you want to have with parents? Volunteers? Kids? You might want to start by doing that.

3. Vision cast for relationships.

We all know that accomplishing a vision starts with vision-casting. ?Make relationships a core element as you vision cast. ?Are you talking about it? ?Encouraging it? Providing platforms for it?

4. Create opportunities for relationship building.

As the leader, you are key to the design of your Children’s Ministry. Does your program structure provide real opportunities for relationship building between each group? ?Think down to basics, such as traffic flow and program time structures…do they enhance or hinder relationship building? ?What about your overall program schedule – are you keeping families so busy that relationships are hard to come by? Ask yourself questions about every little element of your program, looking through the lens of relationship building…you might be surprised at what you find.

These are just a few ideas on creating opportunities for?Heartfelt Relationships. ?All of our ministries are different so they will all look a little different. ?The most important thing is being intentional about the idea of?relationship?in your ministry. ?It is the first element in partnering with parents to guide kids toward a HEART for God.

How do you focus on?relationships in Children’s Ministry?

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Greg Baird
Founder of Children's Ministry Leader at Children's Ministry Leader
My passion is seeing the lives of children transformed. I believe the best way to do that is to equip leaders in the local church to serve children, volunteers and parents to invest in the lives of children at church and in the home. That?s what we do here at Children?s Ministry Leader ? equip leaders to create healthy Children?s & Family Ministry.
I serve as the Vice President of Global Resources in the Global Mission department at David C. Cook.

I love what I do as it is the outflow of 25 years of ministry experience as Children?s, Family & Administrative Pastor, consultant, trainer, speaker and short-term missions leader.

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Stop begging trying to fill the needs in your ministry! IF people respond, it will likely be only short term. Obligatory service doesn’t inspire people to stick around.

Instead, understand the grand vision we are pursuing by investing in children’s lives for eternity!

Practice articulating that vision and start sharing it in every conversation. It’s a privilege and honor to be part of such important service, so INVITE people into that opportunity.

And, of course, never forget the foundation for building our team, found in Luke 10:2: “These were his [Jesus’] instructions to them: ‘The harvest is great, but the workers are few. So pray to the Lord who is in charge of the harvest; ask him to send more workers into his fields.’”


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As the kids run to their waiting parents after church on Sunday morning, is that where the impact ends?

Or does the conversation continue at home throughout the week?

Hopefully the answer is the latter. If it’s not, it’s probably because we aren’t engaging and equipping parents to continue the conversation.

And that’s a problem.

Parents are the primary spiritual investors in a child’s life. Good or bad, this is almost always true.

As Children’s Ministry Leaders, our primary role ought to be to “equip God’s people” (Ephesians 4:12). In our case, I believe that means equip our team to invest in the children of our ministry, and to equip the parents of those children to continue the conversations at home.

If you aren’t engaging & equipping parents to continue the conversations that begin at church, then your ministry is incomplete.

If you are engaging and equipping parents, share an example in the comments of how you do that so the rest of us can learn from you.





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We always hear that children and youth are the church of tomorrow.

Yes, they are.

But they are also part of the church of today.

They are the group most receptive to the Gospel. They are the group most responsive to discipleship.

They also typically represent the largest group in the church, and the one with the most peripheral impact (volunteers, parents, etc).

They are the most vulnerable, physically, spiritually, emotionally and mentally.

Why on earth would we ever think we could “babysit” this group while “real ministry” happens with adults?

The truth is, many (most?) churches are not as healthy or strong as they could be because they lack a thriving focus on perhaps the very group that should receive the greatest focus.

You cannot have a healthy church without a healthy ministry to children and families.

Agree?






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