How to Ensure Failure as a Children’s Ministry Leader

How to Ensure Failure as a Children’s Ministry Leader

failureHaving the perspective of a Youth Pastor, that got saved and converted to Children?s Ministry, I can now see why Kids Pastors?, with whom I previously worked, were so stressed and had the weight of the world on their shoulders. Overseeing a children?s ministry from infants to 5th grade is such a huge responsibility with a very diverse crowd. Each group having their own specific set of needs. Nothing like the specific age group I worked with as a Jr High Pastor and couldn?t understand why the Kid?s Pastor needed so much help.

As Children’s Ministry leaders,?we need other people, we need relationships with people that will grasp the vision we have and run with it. But, I have found 3 ways that, if I am not careful, can ensure the demise of our Children?s Ministry:

Be Afraid of Rejection

I learned early on that I have a problem. I want people to like me. And not just some people. I want everyone I meet to like me. And with this I also have been know to attach my feelings to every aspect of our Children?s Ministry.

I feel like if you cut into the fabric of our ministry?it would bleed me. So when I first started asking people to serve in our kids ministry and they would turn me down, it made me not want to ask anyone ever again.

I became tentative about asking people because they were not just rejecting serving, they were rejecting me. It took me a few months to separate myself from the ministry and realize that they are not saying no to me, but to their fear of dealing with a room full of kids. Though you may have some say no, you?ll have even more start to say yes, but great leaders don?t just volunteer, they are invited.

Never Learn to Say No

A part of the dilemma I had with wanting everyone to like me is that I worry what they are thinking about me (I still struggle with this). I was concerned what they thought of me if I ever said no to a request of my time and my energy. And besides, ministry is a 24/7 job, you never stop being a Pastor right?

This ensured that I packed my schedule full of events, but left little time for my family. It took some long talks to realize that I can?t do everything for everyone. God hasn?t called us to sacrifice our family for the sake of the ministry.

We want our families to love ministry, so we?ve got to be willing to do everything we can to put our family deep into the root of our schedule. We have to learn to say no to the little things, so we can say yes to the important things.

You have to prioritize events with your family: Must Attend, Would Be Great for us to Be At (But not Mandatory), Have been Invited But not Necessary

Fail to Communicate Effectively

I?m naturally an introvert. I have become extroverted to be better at communicating and relating with people, but it takes work. So, as an introvert, sometimes I?d rather not talk and I feel like if say it once, that should suffice. I have quickly learned that when busy people are involved, I have to be willing to communicate in multiple facets on different formats in order to connect with more people.

I send out emails, phone calls, text messages, Facebook events/posts, and over communicate on everything we are doing.?Communication is key to ministry. We have to be great at communicating to our volunteers, parents and kids, but also to our families.

KidMin leaders have to be able to communicate with kids on their level, teenagers who volunteer (if you don?t have teenagers volunteer you are missing out on a terrific group of potential leaders to invest in) and adults that volunteer and/or have children in your ministry. Communicate often and effectively to each and every age group. Always remember your audience.

No one wants to fail. We don?t jump into KidMin hoping we?d fail. But, unless we learn from our mistakes and the mistakes of others, we are doomed to fail.

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Greg Baird
Founder of Children's Ministry Leader at Children's Ministry Leader
My passion is seeing the lives of children transformed. I believe the best way to do that is to equip leaders in the local church to serve children, volunteers and parents to invest in the lives of children at church and in the home. That?s what we do here at Children?s Ministry Leader ? equip leaders to create healthy Children?s & Family Ministry.
I serve as the Vice President of Global Resources in the Global Mission department at David C. Cook.

I love what I do as it is the outflow of 25 years of ministry experience as Children?s, Family & Administrative Pastor, consultant, trainer, speaker and short-term missions leader.

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Stop begging trying to fill the needs in your ministry! IF people respond, it will likely be only short term. Obligatory service doesn’t inspire people to stick around.

Instead, understand the grand vision we are pursuing by investing in children’s lives for eternity!

Practice articulating that vision and start sharing it in every conversation. It’s a privilege and honor to be part of such important service, so INVITE people into that opportunity.

And, of course, never forget the foundation for building our team, found in Luke 10:2: “These were his [Jesus’] instructions to them: ‘The harvest is great, but the workers are few. So pray to the Lord who is in charge of the harvest; ask him to send more workers into his fields.’”

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As the kids run to their waiting parents after church on Sunday morning, is that where the impact ends?

Or does the conversation continue at home throughout the week?

Hopefully the answer is the latter. If it’s not, it’s probably because we aren’t engaging and equipping parents to continue the conversation.

And that’s a problem.

Parents are the primary spiritual investors in a child’s life. Good or bad, this is almost always true.

As Children’s Ministry Leaders, our primary role ought to be to “equip God’s people” (Ephesians 4:12). In our case, I believe that means equip our team to invest in the children of our ministry, and to equip the parents of those children to continue the conversations at home.

If you aren’t engaging & equipping parents to continue the conversations that begin at church, then your ministry is incomplete.

If you are engaging and equipping parents, share an example in the comments of how you do that so the rest of us can learn from you.

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We always hear that children and youth are the church of tomorrow.

Yes, they are.

But they are also part of the church of today.

They are the group most receptive to the Gospel. They are the group most responsive to discipleship.

They also typically represent the largest group in the church, and the one with the most peripheral impact (volunteers, parents, etc).

They are the most vulnerable, physically, spiritually, emotionally and mentally.

Why on earth would we ever think we could “babysit” this group while “real ministry” happens with adults?

The truth is, many (most?) churches are not as healthy or strong as they could be because they lack a thriving focus on perhaps the very group that should receive the greatest focus.

You cannot have a healthy church without a healthy ministry to children and families.


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