Why Being A Children’s Ministry Leader Is Not Primarily About The Kids

Why Being A Children’s Ministry Leader Is Not Primarily About The Kids

It's not about the kids. This is the second of a 5 part series on things I’ve learned while being a Children’s Pastor. Lesson #1 was:?The Most Important Person In Your Ministry Is…YOU!?

Critical Children’s Ministry Leadership Lesson #2:?

Being a Children’s Pastor is not primarily about the kids.

OK, let me qualify this statement: our end-goals?are?ultimately about the spiritual formation of?children, but what I do as a Children’s Pastor to meet those goals should be primarily adult-focused.

Specifically, as a church leader my role is to equip others. Here’s what scripture says:

“Their (church leaders) responsibility is to equip God’s people to do His work and build up the church, the body of Christ. Ephesians 4:12”

I’ve been blessed to lead children’s ministries in churches from 250 to 7000 set in many different environments. It doesn’t matter – my job is to?equip others to do the work of the ministry. Says so right there in Ephesians (and you can read more about it here:?The One Sentence Children?s Ministry Leader Job Description).

Our tendency, however, is to get so caught up in the minors that we forget about the majors. We worry about curriculum and resources and program and facilities and…and…and.

These are all important – critical non-negotiables, in fact – but they aren’t the?most important?elements for my focus (and, yes, the smaller the church the harder it is to remain focused on the important things). Aside from growing myself as a spiritual leader (see Critical Children’s Ministry Leadership Lesson #1), my most important responsibility is to equip others to do the work of ministry.

In my opinion, that means two things:

1. Developing your team around you (staff and/or core leaders)

Your ministry will only grow to the level that you and your team can take it.

2. Equipping parents to disciple their children

Spiritual formation of kids in your ministry will primarily happen only to the extent of their parents investment in that process.

So I need to daily ask myself questions such as:

  • What have I done today to grow myself as the leader of this ministry?
  • Who and how have I equipped someone else today to do the work of the ministry?
  • What can I equip someone else to do so that I am focused on what?only?I can do?
  • How is our ministry intentionally designed to partner with parents in equipping them to disciple their own children?

I’ll share the third lesson I’ve learned as a children’s pastor in the next post. For now . . .

What have you learned about your central focus as a Children’s Ministry Leader??

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Founder of Children's Ministry Leader at Children's Ministry Leader
My passion is seeing the lives of children transformed. I believe the best way to do that is to equip leaders in the local church to serve children, volunteers and parents to invest in the lives of children at church and in the home. That?s what we do here at Children?s Ministry Leader ? equip leaders to create healthy Children?s & Family Ministry.
I serve as the Vice President of Global Resources in the Global Mission department at David C. Cook.

I love what I do as it is the outflow of 25 years of ministry experience as Children?s, Family & Administrative Pastor, consultant, trainer, speaker and short-term missions leader.

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As the kids run to their waiting parents after church on Sunday morning, is that where the impact ends?

Or does the conversation continue at home throughout the week?

Hopefully the answer is the latter. If it’s not, it’s probably because we aren’t engaging and equipping parents to continue the conversation.

And that’s a problem.

Parents are the primary spiritual investors in a child’s life. Good or bad, this is almost always true.

As Children’s Ministry Leaders, our primary role ought to be to “equip God’s people” (Ephesians 4:12). In our case, I believe that means equip our team to invest in the children of our ministry, and to equip the parents of those children to continue the conversations at home.

If you aren’t engaging & equipping parents to continue the conversations that begin at church, then your ministry is incomplete.

If you are engaging and equipping parents, share an example in the comments of how you do that so the rest of us can learn from you.

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We always hear that children and youth are the church of tomorrow.

Yes, they are.

But they are also part of the church of today.

They are the group most receptive to the Gospel. They are the group most responsive to discipleship.

They also typically represent the largest group in the church, and the one with the most peripheral impact (volunteers, parents, etc).

They are the most vulnerable, physically, spiritually, emotionally and mentally.

Why on earth would we ever think we could “babysit” this group while “real ministry” happens with adults?

The truth is, many (most?) churches are not as healthy or strong as they could be because they lack a thriving focus on perhaps the very group that should receive the greatest focus.

You cannot have a healthy church without a healthy ministry to children and families.


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