8 Discipline Tools You Already Have For Children’s Ministry

8 Discipline Tools You Already Have For Children’s Ministry

disipline-childDiscipline can be a real challenge in children’s ministry. As I speak at conferences and work with church, it invariably comes up. First and foremost, I try and convey the idea that discipleship must drive discipline.?It is not our job, nor should it be our desire, to punish children for misbehavior. Instead, every action should align with Paul’s instructions to fathers in Ephesians 6:4:

And now a word to you fathers. Don?t make your children angry by the way you?treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction approved by the Lord.?

Paul tells us that?fathers are to be careful how their kids are brought up. Specifically, fathers arenot to frustrate, or anger, their?kids by the way they are disciplined and instructed. Rather, use techniques and ways that are ?approved by?the Lord.? In other words, discipline and instruct in ways that are appropriate, that are effective, and that?honor God. While this verse is specifically spoken to fathers, the principle of effective discipline and?instruction can be applied further, including to children?s ministry.

Several years ago I wrote an article in?Children’s Ministry Magazine?called Discipline Tools You Already Have (click the link to get the full article in PDF version).?Here are the 8 tools I mentioned in that article – and with these tools we can use discipline as an opportunity to I.N.S.T.R.U.C.T:

  1. I nfectious Enthusiasm
  2. N atural Consequences
  3. S ilence
  4. T ouch
  5. R easonable Expectations
  6. U nderstanding
  7. C lear Guidelines (Boundaries)
  8. T urning It Over

Using discipline effectively & appropriately is one of the most important discipleship tools you have. It’s important that we understand how to do it, and that we equip our team to do it, too!

Click through to the article for more explanation of each tool, and let’s all commit to discipline for the purpose of discipleship!?

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Greg Baird
Founder of Children's Ministry Leader at Children's Ministry Leader
My passion is seeing the lives of children transformed. I believe the best way to do that is to equip leaders in the local church to serve children, volunteers and parents to invest in the lives of children at church and in the home. That?s what we do here at Children?s Ministry Leader ? equip leaders to create healthy Children?s & Family Ministry.
I serve as the Vice President of Global Resources in the Global Mission department at David C. Cook.

I love what I do as it is the outflow of 25 years of ministry experience as Children?s, Family & Administrative Pastor, consultant, trainer, speaker and short-term missions leader.

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Stop begging trying to fill the needs in your ministry! IF people respond, it will likely be only short term. Obligatory service doesn’t inspire people to stick around.

Instead, understand the grand vision we are pursuing by investing in children’s lives for eternity!

Practice articulating that vision and start sharing it in every conversation. It’s a privilege and honor to be part of such important service, so INVITE people into that opportunity.

And, of course, never forget the foundation for building our team, found in Luke 10:2: “These were his [Jesus’] instructions to them: ‘The harvest is great, but the workers are few. So pray to the Lord who is in charge of the harvest; ask him to send more workers into his fields.’”


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As the kids run to their waiting parents after church on Sunday morning, is that where the impact ends?

Or does the conversation continue at home throughout the week?

Hopefully the answer is the latter. If it’s not, it’s probably because we aren’t engaging and equipping parents to continue the conversation.

And that’s a problem.

Parents are the primary spiritual investors in a child’s life. Good or bad, this is almost always true.

As Children’s Ministry Leaders, our primary role ought to be to “equip God’s people” (Ephesians 4:12). In our case, I believe that means equip our team to invest in the children of our ministry, and to equip the parents of those children to continue the conversations at home.

If you aren’t engaging & equipping parents to continue the conversations that begin at church, then your ministry is incomplete.

If you are engaging and equipping parents, share an example in the comments of how you do that so the rest of us can learn from you.





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